What every person can learn from dog training | Noa Szefler | TEDxJaffa

today I'm going to tell you about a revolution a revolution of communication a scientific revolution of observation with this revolution we become the dog's best friend and we start to truly see dogs as they deserve to be seen as our best friends you will see how dog training can improve your own relationships and not just with dogs we already have the tools and the knowledge and it's happening all over the world so picture this you come home after a long day at work and annoying boss and never-ending traffic jam and as you reach your home your sanctuary you open the door and instead of getting that moment of peace and quiet your dog attacks you at the doorway jumping a new barking and bouncing and loving you to death not a fun way to be greeted right so how do we react do we get mad yell raisiny and that's reacting the way that we do out of impatience anger or misconception is only understandable misconception because most of the world sees a dog's unwanted behaviors as dominance based behaviors power struggles where dogs try to take charge and boss us around out of this misinterpretation of dog's behavior we dog lovers were convinced our relationship with our dogs is based on a power struggle and that for the sake of our dogs we should win this battle assertively handling our best friends we had to punish them to subdue them yell at them even hurt them in the name of training belly come should be oughtta toughie this is Pelle her name means Wonder and even though she is a wonder dog even Pele had to be taught there is a better way of showing and getting affection than jumping on me I like that she's excited to see me but I don't like to be attacked even if it is out of love so she was taught that the best way to get the attention she wants is to come and sit in front of me and wait and she also learned that the attention is worth the wait been a toughie the point is we should all know better science has proven it to us decades ago dogs are not dominance driven creatures so why do we keep training them as if they are yet some of us don't appreciate dog hair on our couch and want the dog not to sit on it we have to understand that when a dog sits on the couch he does it not because it represents some ideal of control some representation of dominance over a living room but because it's the most comfortable place to lay in I mean that is why we bought the couch in the first place so once we understand that the dog only wants a nice warm cozy place to rest on next to us Pele lamoco so what then we can teach the dog and reinforce the dog reward the dog for using that nice warm soft cozy place to rest on next to us dogs should have rules and have boundaries but how do we do it this is a great example the dog behaviorist Cathy sedale uses to explain which usually happens when people try to set boundaries so you need to get somewhere so you hail a taxi you jump in you close the door you buckle up and you tell the driver don't take me to Tel Aviv and also don't take me to Jerusalem and don't take me to Haifa do you think the cab driver will have any idea where you want him to take you of course the drivers obvious question would be where do you want to go and dogs are just like that they want us to tell them what we want them to do in fact they're desperately waiting for our guidance and it's so easy when we tell people what we want and then we get what we want people are no different I have this friend and I'm not going to mention names but she had this boyfriend and they were going out for about a year and things were about to get serious but the guy had this one trait but drove her mad the guy possessed the incredible ability to completely ignore a messy house I mean piles of laundry everywhere dishes in the sink overflowing stuff on the table the works it drove her insane and they used to fight about it all the time and then tired of fighting she decided to try a different approach mine so she started capturing behaviors she wanted him to keep small stuff at first when he put his socks in the laundry basket when he washed one cup she rewarded those behaviors with things he liked hug a movie anything that made him happy gradually the house got cleaner and less messy which was great but what was really amazing to her was the effect this had on the relationship she started noticing the things he did right and she found herself liking him more today their happily married and our graduates of the marker Training Institute here in Israel led by nova carmel will testify the same thing how learning to train dogs has completely changed their perspective not just in the dog training world but everywhere the relationships with our partners their parents their neighbors their children they stopped looking for what everyone was doing wrong and started seeing the things that were right and that's the trick basically focusing on behavior you want to keep and encourage and then helping your subject whether it's a dog or a person or any living being to learn to offer it that's what the revolution is all about helping them learn some simple in theory right but what about extreme cases let's get back to dogs there's a common example that happens in many homes let's take a 10 month old golden retriever mix Kayla look Caleb is your common house dog happy for attention loves to be petted great with children the problem with Kayla starts when there's food or bones around whenever anyone comes close to her and her bone the dog tenses up and grouse according to what we were led to believe in order to take charge of a growling dog and control the situation we had to punish them every time such behavior occurred we had to raise her voice we had to yell stop it Kayla bad dog but is Kayla bad dog the truth is she is just a frightened dog terrified of the possibility that someone might take her food or her bones away in the past we would have punished the growling the symptom really but in marker training we want to treat the cause of the problem the emotion that is behind the behavior if Kayla could speak our language this would be easy hey Kayla you have nothing to worry about we're not going to take your stuff everything is okay but she doesn't so let's communicate with her in the way she will understand that's teacher she has nothing to fear we'll use classical conditioning to teach Kayla that every time we come close to her and her bones we give her good things good things happen and we're not taking anything away and soon Kayla will start to look forward to us coming closer to her and the growling will disappear but most importantly so will the fear how easy it is when doing it right it's so simple without using force it's such common sense it's so obvious so how come we still use force as a dog training method the truth is a lack of knowledge and false beliefs about what truly motivates dogs and this is what we are all here to change the thing with dogs is that they learn all the time they learn from us and about us and if they show this amazing ability to learn don't we owe it to them to take responsibility and teach them properly our revolution is ongoing dog lovers all over the world have found a better way a way to establish constructive communication with our learner to read their body language relying on studies that help us to better understand dogs so we can help them to better understand us and for those who found this way the results are amazing the dream of having a dog in our home stopped being a nightmare no more having to be the ever vigilant pack leader forever engaged in a battle for control it brought peace and love back into our homes the way only dogs can the revolution is going on as we speak we have the tools and the knowledge you can start doing this yourself with your spouse your dog your child start small and you will see big change happen our dogs deserve it and so do we thank you

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